Overcoming Deployment One Day at a Time

One Lovely Blog Award

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I’m so honored that I was nominated for this award!  I love knowing that someone out there enjoys my blog as much as I enjoy writing it.  🙂  Thank you to Notes From The Backseat for the nomination!  Everyone should go check her out.

One Lovely Blog Award Rules:

If you’re nominated, please abide by the following rules in order to keep this award moving through the blogging world, and to help everyone get more views!

  • Thank the person who nominated you, and link their blog in your post.
  • Share seven unknown facts about yourself.
  • Nominate other bloggers and blogs you like or admire (15 or so if possible).
  • Contact the bloggers you nominate to let them know, and to link them back to your post for the rules. 

Seven (Mostly) Unknown Facts:

  1. I always dreamed of moving out of Louisiana…until I moved out of Louisiana.  Now I’d give anything to be home.
  2. I’m TERRIBLE at time management, but I’m trying to find the time to improve that skill.
  3. I married my husband after 7  months of knowing him, 5 months of dating him & 3 months of being engaged to him.  ❤
  4. I was on the powerlifting team in high school.  And not just on it…I was good.  I placed 5th in state in 2002.  🙂
  5. Hubby & I want 5 babies.
  6. I check Facebook about 1000 times a day and not for any particular reason…just a habit.
  7. I try to take a nap every day.


mamacravings:  She shares her experiences in mommy hood.  Let’s face it, parenting is more fun when you know there are others out there who you can relate to & learn from.  She’s one of those people.

300 New Suns:  She keeps me inspired and motivated throughout my hubby’s deployment with her blog about life during her own hubby’s deployment.

le zoe musings:  As if her pictures on her blog weren’t enough, her posts are filled with wonderful, creative ideas & projects.

retireediary:  He has amazing photography and wonderful thoughts to accompany each amazing photograph.

Sweet Little Thang:  Who doesn’t love a good food blog?!  This one is full of sweets & treats.  Yum!


The Five Stages

*To all my readers, I apologize for my recent absence.  I have no excuse other than not knowing where to go next.  I think I’ve found more inspiration, though.  Enjoy.*

I haven’t had a lot of time to write in a few days.  In the time I have found, I haven’t actually written, though.  Instead, I searched high & low for inspiration.


Since I lacked motivation as well, I gave up on the inspiration search pretty quickly.  I just haven’t been in the mood, ya know?

Perhaps the blogging world frowns upon me sharing my lack of drive, but I’m too new to know any better.  At least that’s my excuse.  After all, I am feeling a lack of consideration as well.

This past weekend & early week have just been one of those uneventful, lazy, selfish group of days.  Hmmm…Maybe this is stemming from pre-deployment woes?

Ah ha!  Inspiration!

Everyone knows about the 5 stages of loss and grief, right?

1. Denial & Isolation

2. Anger

3. Bargaining

4. Depression

5. Acceptance

Go to this super informative psychology site to learn more about each of them.  If you haven’t already heard of these 5 stages, then read up!  It is always good to know you’re not alone in an emotional roller coaster when something terrible happens.

Motivation!  I want to know if everyone else goes through highs & lows during the weeks leading up to deployment.  I know I can’t be alone…and I’m not.

I found this blog entitled “Five Stages of Pre-Deployment.”  Well, that sounds familiar, doesn’t it?

In this blog the author delves into our inner struggles with denial, disbelief, anger, sadness and acceptance.  I’m certain each of us deal with these stages differently, and some (like myself) go back & forth through the stages.  Sometimes it happens all in one day; other times I get stuck in a certain stage for days.  Now I’m stuck in the disbelief & anger stages with a little acceptance thrown in.

I know from past experiences that when I’m in utter disbelief and/or angry I become uninspired, lack motivation and see the world through only my eyes.  A little sliver of me wishes I were out of the disbelief & anger stages and, instead, in denial.  When I’m in denial, I’m usually a little happier than normal and pretend life is great.  In denial, though, I have these constant, lingering knots in my stomach.  I know deep down that something is wrong.  Sadness usually hits soon after my denial stage; I come down like a ton of bricks.  Like with disbelief and anger, I become unmotivated during sadness.  I usually find myself sitting in front of the TV, ignoring the world around me.  As far as acceptance goes, well…I can feel hints of acceptance every once in a while.  There’s relief in acceptance.  There’s a peace that comes with that stage that I can’t explain, and it’s where I want to be.  I hope the acceptance stage hits me full on here fairly quickly since D-day is soon.

So that’s a quick overview of how I feel throughout these 5 stages of pre-deployment.  How do you feel?  What are your side effects of denial, disbelief, anger, sadness and acceptance?


Peace and Quiet

Both of my babies are napping.  *Knock on wood.*

There’s peace and quiet in my house, so why do I find myself at a loss for what to write?  Perhaps my mind is stuck on needing to finish part three of my “A Bubbly 2nd Birthday Blowout” post.  Maybe I need the chaos of my 2-year-old running around, screaming in glee, and my 2-month-old fussing until I pick her up and carry her around for hours on end as motivation to sit down and write.  Most likely, though, my mind is too focused on packing.

I need to start packing for my 9-month vacation back to Louisiana during hubby’s deployment.  I have very little time to get everything together that the three of us will need for 9 months away from our current home.  I’m just not ready to face that reality yet, though.

I can tell myself all day long, “It’s just a vacation,” but the gut-wrenching feeling in the pit of my stomach knows better.  It’s telling me what is really happening-My best friend/love of my life won’t be going on this “vacation” with us.

While there’s peace and quiet in my house for now, my emotions won’t settle enough to feel the peace or enjoy the quiet.

–End pity party here.  Onto something more exciting-finshing my 2-year-old’s birthday party blog.  Now that’s the type of party I like!–

Update:  “A Bubbly 2nd Birthday Blowout [Part 3]” has been finished & published.  I just couldn’t bring myself to break up those posts with this random thought.  I need organization in my life, after all.  😉

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A Post a Day Keeps Insanity Away

So.  I am still very new and learning my way around the blogging world.  I came across a idea that has merit (not that many of their ideas lack it).  It’s called Post a Day 2012. or The Daily Post.  While I’m not ready to put that little “I’m part of Post a Day 2012” icon on my blog because I’m just not quite sure whether or not I’ll actually find the time, I believe blogging every day could be good for the soul.  Like others, I have a lot to say, and I want to share it with everyone.  Keeping all of these jumbled ideas locked away in this head is dangerous.  Yes, some of my ideas and experiences are bland, but they at least deserve some amusement.  If I don’t find the time to begin blogging regularly, my head may 1.  have memory lapses or 2.  land me in an insane asylum.  Neither of these are options for me.

Step one-Get these ideas and experiences that are running through my mind in order.  What’s most important?  What do I want to share next?

Step two-Work on time management.

Step three-Use the newfound time management skills to blog. Everyday.  It may, after all, keep insanity away.


Ready, Set…WAIT…Blog!

Starting a blog is so much more difficult than what I imagined.  It’s taken me 3 days just to get to this point.  You know, the point where I tell you what I want to blog about.  Let’s not rush into that, though.  First let me explain why it’s taken me 3 days to get this thing goin’.

When I can get both of my kids to sleep at the same time, I’m under the impression that I can do anything, including but not limited to folding laundry, cleaning bottles, sweeping up toddler crumbs, preparing dinner, catching up on recorded shows and…starting a blog.  Before I could even finish getting the laundry out of the dryer, my sweet baby girl awoke from her 15-minute power nap.  Starting a blog, attempt #1:  FAIL.

So life continued to happen that day, and the dream of getting my blog going dwindled into sweet dreams.  These sweet dreams lasted for all of about two hours in the middle of the night.  A two-hour stretch of sleep is about all I get between my infant’s cries to be fed, held or entertained and my husband’s alarm going off, which also alerts my toddler to wake up…at 5:00 am.

Anyway, 5:00 am!  Surely waking up this early would give me enough time to go back and forth to the computer throughout the day to get my blog how I want it in order to publish my first post.  Every time I thought I had our house under control, I would sit down at the computer, and the next thing I know there’s a ball flying right toward my monitor, a baby screaming or a toddler begging to watch Lion King for the 4th time in one morning.  Starting a blog, attempt #2:  FAIL.

Finally, my in-laws come to town to visit their amazing son before he deploys for 9 months.  Thanks to their helpful hands, I am able to sit down to tell you what this is all about…

My husband and his unit leave for Afghanistan very, very soon.  This is our first deployment, and I want to make the most of what may be the hardest thing I’ve been through to date.  I want to learn how to depend on myself, how to keep a smile on my face and most importantly how to keep my babies entertained while daddy is away.  I want to share what I learn.

Also, this blog won’t only delve into the hardships I will experience emotionally throughout my husband’s 270-day departure, but I will also share things I’m doing in an attempt to take my mind off of the separation.  I want to share outings (both with and without children), my time in the kitchen, my weight loss journey (because, after all, I have had two kids), my experiences back home in Louisiana and everything in between.  This is my “Dear, Diary,” my outlet during deployment.